WHEN HARRY MET SALLY
Even without going out for supper with the Supper Gang, the Monk would sometimes keep me posted on what they have discussed. It had been this way since we were back in Form 4, where he was the Chinese Society Secretary and I was the Vice Secretary. (I wrote minutes in Malay)
Mr Curly insisted that men and women could not be MERELY friends.
Koon and the Monk were shocked upon hearing this and they totally disagreed with Mr Curly.
Koon is a very sociable person. He could blend in any Cantonese or Mandarin speaking crowd without feeling awkward. The Monk on the other hand – as his name suggested, insisted he does not (listen first) have any intention of breaching his vow of celibacy, so, being just friends with ladies would not post any problems to him. Mr Curly.. well, he probably has an attitude problem. Kit is always quiet when the conversation turns argumentative.
What do you think? Can a man and a woman be merely friends?
1989 - When Harry Met Sally
In When Harry Met Sally, Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan, had set a precedent that man and woman CANNOT be merely friends.
Love Story One
James and Mae were merely friends in the beginning. They had their own relationship problems (then) and found comfort confiding in each other. They ended up marrying, blessed with a baby boy.
Love Story Two
Betty Boo and Three-Inch-Nail were classmates since primary. Betty Boo swore to us in our secret girls gathering in school and said she wouldn’t marry someone who is only taller than her by one inch. They ended up marrying with a two year old daughter.
Love Story Three
My ex room-mate (no – not the lesbian), Snooker-Table-Leg insisted that Ah Fook is her best friend and she wouldn’t trade him for the world. After going through a trauma of Ah Fook going to Singapore and went missing for about 9 months (it was believed he was hypnotized), SGL realized she couldn’t live without him. They ended up being together for 6 years now.
Need I even say more?
There are examples too of man and woman remain merely friends all these years.
Platonic One
James and I are merely friends (Still) – pre and post-Mae. We went out together most of the time, with the entire marquis group. A psycho chick from Canada (Also an IRC friend) was so jealous of our platonic friendship and kept on insisting that there ought to be more than that. She had hots for James, you see. (That is before she had a look at him).
She flew all the way from Canada to Malaysia and had a look at me (she felt threatened by me – *ahaks*) before jumping into any conclusion.
Platonic Two
Dennis aka Yabba and Tan, my former colleagues, are the best platonic boyfriends one could ever have. In the Taman Negara trip last year, both of them took good care of me, ensuring I didn’t get stucked while negotating the holes while caving, waited for me when the rest of the group left me behind during our hiking trip, and ensuring that I didn’t get eaten by the wild boars in the night jungle tracking.
Platonic Three
I went to Perhentian with 3 male friends, slept together in the same room, and nothing happened. (The problem of lacking sex appeal on my part is another issue altogether).
Some of my girlfriends prefer confiding in their male friends with the problems as they proved to be more trust worthy. The chances of the boys spreading their problems like juicy gossip stories would be minimal as compared to the girls. Boys do not get jealous when you are promoted or get a pay raise – provided they are not your real boyfriends (as in lovers/husbands). Boys could be your drinking buddy to wash away your sorrow when you are in emotional distress. Men give you more practical advice, minus the emotional hiccups or extreme feminist views (eg. The overuse “All men are bastards” – even if the breakup is entirely your fault).
Of course, one can’t deny the fact certain friendships would flourish into relationships. Some lasted, some didn’t. We just need to ask ourselves, is the risk worth taking?
I feel that being a part of someone’s life is truly a blessing, even if it is impermanent, and irregardless how the friendship might evolve – be it marital bliss or merely friends. What matter most is the sense of respect for the opposite sexes’ decision and pray to God for strength, courage and wisdom that either side would be able to accept things they couldn’t change.
Click here (Sep 20, 2004) to read a post of a fellow blogger who took it quite bad when a guy friend rejected her. (Read the second last para in caps)
Sista, I feel for you.
Mr Curly insisted that men and women could not be MERELY friends.
Koon and the Monk were shocked upon hearing this and they totally disagreed with Mr Curly.
Koon is a very sociable person. He could blend in any Cantonese or Mandarin speaking crowd without feeling awkward. The Monk on the other hand – as his name suggested, insisted he does not (listen first) have any intention of breaching his vow of celibacy, so, being just friends with ladies would not post any problems to him. Mr Curly.. well, he probably has an attitude problem. Kit is always quiet when the conversation turns argumentative.
What do you think? Can a man and a woman be merely friends?
1989 - When Harry Met Sally
In When Harry Met Sally, Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan, had set a precedent that man and woman CANNOT be merely friends.
Love Story One
James and Mae were merely friends in the beginning. They had their own relationship problems (then) and found comfort confiding in each other. They ended up marrying, blessed with a baby boy.
Love Story Two
Betty Boo and Three-Inch-Nail were classmates since primary. Betty Boo swore to us in our secret girls gathering in school and said she wouldn’t marry someone who is only taller than her by one inch. They ended up marrying with a two year old daughter.
Love Story Three
My ex room-mate (no – not the lesbian), Snooker-Table-Leg insisted that Ah Fook is her best friend and she wouldn’t trade him for the world. After going through a trauma of Ah Fook going to Singapore and went missing for about 9 months (it was believed he was hypnotized), SGL realized she couldn’t live without him. They ended up being together for 6 years now.
Need I even say more?
There are examples too of man and woman remain merely friends all these years.
Platonic One
James and I are merely friends (Still) – pre and post-Mae. We went out together most of the time, with the entire marquis group. A psycho chick from Canada (Also an IRC friend) was so jealous of our platonic friendship and kept on insisting that there ought to be more than that. She had hots for James, you see. (That is before she had a look at him).
She flew all the way from Canada to Malaysia and had a look at me (she felt threatened by me – *ahaks*) before jumping into any conclusion.
Platonic Two
Dennis aka Yabba and Tan, my former colleagues, are the best platonic boyfriends one could ever have. In the Taman Negara trip last year, both of them took good care of me, ensuring I didn’t get stucked while negotating the holes while caving, waited for me when the rest of the group left me behind during our hiking trip, and ensuring that I didn’t get eaten by the wild boars in the night jungle tracking.
Platonic Three
I went to Perhentian with 3 male friends, slept together in the same room, and nothing happened. (The problem of lacking sex appeal on my part is another issue altogether).
Some of my girlfriends prefer confiding in their male friends with the problems as they proved to be more trust worthy. The chances of the boys spreading their problems like juicy gossip stories would be minimal as compared to the girls. Boys do not get jealous when you are promoted or get a pay raise – provided they are not your real boyfriends (as in lovers/husbands). Boys could be your drinking buddy to wash away your sorrow when you are in emotional distress. Men give you more practical advice, minus the emotional hiccups or extreme feminist views (eg. The overuse “All men are bastards” – even if the breakup is entirely your fault).
Of course, one can’t deny the fact certain friendships would flourish into relationships. Some lasted, some didn’t. We just need to ask ourselves, is the risk worth taking?
I feel that being a part of someone’s life is truly a blessing, even if it is impermanent, and irregardless how the friendship might evolve – be it marital bliss or merely friends. What matter most is the sense of respect for the opposite sexes’ decision and pray to God for strength, courage and wisdom that either side would be able to accept things they couldn’t change.
Click here (Sep 20, 2004) to read a post of a fellow blogger who took it quite bad when a guy friend rejected her. (Read the second last para in caps)
Sista, I feel for you.
Comments
sarah | Homepage | 09.21.04 – 12:29 am | #
two words.
definitely not. (my answer to your question)
ryuu | 09.21.04 – 1:03 am | #
wah lau. just by reading her post (the blogger that got rejected), i felt like i’ve been fucked a million times. (NOT literally)
ryuu | 09.21.04 – 1:05 am | #
Thanks, Sarah! Afterall, I always wanted to be Sue Townsend!
Ryuu: Dont you wish, you were fucked million times? Hehehe.
Gina | Homepage | 09.21.04 – 1:44 am | #
It’s funny how I don’t automatically remember Canadian girl. HAhahhah! That should have been a momentous time in my life. Oh well.
james | Homepage | 09.21.04 – 7:38 am | #
in answer to your question, i say most definitely! 2 of my bestest buddies are guys and we were housemates for 2 years. i kinda have a super gang of my own. ahem! and all of us have been friends for ages…
CC | 09.21.04 – 10:40 am | #
so it is good to have rich bf incase he dump you, you still get some money than poor mans…because no relationship have guarantee and need take big risks…welcome to the real world…lol
ahlian | 09.21.04 – 12:12 pm | #
muahahahahhahaha.. I almost forgot about the canadian gal as well. That’s one psycho alright.
I think men and women can be friends. There’s always bound to be some attraction there, but whether they act on it or remain friends, it depends on how much they want the friendship/relationship.
Kat | Homepage | 09.21.04 – 6:47 pm | #
It is possibe for a man and a woman to be platonic friends for a while. But wait until they engage in some friendly sex. After that, they may become awkward with each other and stop being platonic. Or they become lovers and advance beyond platonic. Either way, the platonic phase ends. I’ve seen it happen.
viewtru | Homepage | 09.21.04 – 7:45 pm | #
Thanks for the comments, folks.
James: How can you every forget Sybil? or was she a hong ki?
Kat: Yeap. She is one helluva terror!
CC: Good for you!
Ahlian: No comment.
Viewtru: Yes. Sex screw things up.
Gina | Homepage | 09.22.04 – 12:26 am | #
Hahhahhaha… Sybil! Ah yes, that was her name wasn’t it? I really forgot!
james | Homepage | 09.22.04 – 1:33 pm | #
I like the way you phrased “She had hots for James, you see. (That is before she had a look at him).”
Owwie. LMFAO
mdmafia | Homepage | 09.22.04 – 3:32 pm | #
James: Now u remember? Hehe.
Madam: Thanks. This is the way I talk too, in flesh.
Gina | Homepage | 09.23.04 – 12:05 am | #