SIMILAR BUT NOT THE SAME
As I was telling a friend of my choice of words, I was not very happy for what I had found out.
Every word that comes out from my mouth is very sarcastic, even if I meant well.
For example, during lunch, I saw the pot was boiling hot in the kitchen.
Instead of saying, “Hey! Do you want to turn off the stove before it is burnt?” I said, “Do you want to wait till the dish is burnt, then only turn off the stove?”
It has the similar meaning – to turn off the stove, yet, it is not the same.
Another instance was, a very inconsiderate “friend” of my sister’s called my house at 1 am.
My mind was racing – did somebody died? Is there an emergency? Good lord! I hope nothing happen to the kids…
Boy. How pissed was I when I found out it’s him.
Instead of telling him, it’s inappropriate to call at this ungodly hour (it goes without saying for people with common sense), I asked him, “Do you know what time is it?”
And then, yelled at my sister by saying, “Can you ask your friend not to be so fucked up?”
In the morning after, I gave another nagging session to my sister. Instead of advising her, “Please ask your friends not to call at such ungodly hour. It disturbs everyone’s sleep.”
I said, “Did somebody die last night? Or was someone really sick and got admitted to hospital?”
My sister looked at me with a blank look on her face. “Who died? Who is sick?”
With a tulan face, I said, “Only when there is death or sickness, you are allowed to call house phone at 1 am.”
When advising a friend to tell him that the girl is not right for him, I put a foot in my mouth again.
Instead of saying, “In my opinion, I felt that she is not appropriate for you as both of you needed someone to take care of yourselves.”
I said, “Come to think of it, both of you are a match made in heaven, since both of you are so damn childish.”
Like I said earlier, sarcasm is the lowest form of wit.
I think I seriously need to work on my communication skills.
Every word that comes out from my mouth is very sarcastic, even if I meant well.
For example, during lunch, I saw the pot was boiling hot in the kitchen.
Instead of saying, “Hey! Do you want to turn off the stove before it is burnt?” I said, “Do you want to wait till the dish is burnt, then only turn off the stove?”
It has the similar meaning – to turn off the stove, yet, it is not the same.
Another instance was, a very inconsiderate “friend” of my sister’s called my house at 1 am.
My mind was racing – did somebody died? Is there an emergency? Good lord! I hope nothing happen to the kids…
Boy. How pissed was I when I found out it’s him.
Instead of telling him, it’s inappropriate to call at this ungodly hour (it goes without saying for people with common sense), I asked him, “Do you know what time is it?”
And then, yelled at my sister by saying, “Can you ask your friend not to be so fucked up?”
In the morning after, I gave another nagging session to my sister. Instead of advising her, “Please ask your friends not to call at such ungodly hour. It disturbs everyone’s sleep.”
I said, “Did somebody die last night? Or was someone really sick and got admitted to hospital?”
My sister looked at me with a blank look on her face. “Who died? Who is sick?”
With a tulan face, I said, “Only when there is death or sickness, you are allowed to call house phone at 1 am.”
When advising a friend to tell him that the girl is not right for him, I put a foot in my mouth again.
Instead of saying, “In my opinion, I felt that she is not appropriate for you as both of you needed someone to take care of yourselves.”
I said, “Come to think of it, both of you are a match made in heaven, since both of you are so damn childish.”
Like I said earlier, sarcasm is the lowest form of wit.
I think I seriously need to work on my communication skills.
Comments
At least you are aware of it, most don’t realise it… best of luck.
Zing | Homepage | 09.27.06 – 6:32 pm | #
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hahaha!
come to think of it, we are quite alike oh… i can be that mean if they got on my nerve, too.
Jakun | 09.28.06 – 1:41 am | #
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hahaha.. you just can’t help yourself. Don’t worry though, I just love you all the same. :P
Kat | Homepage | 09.28.06 – 2:22 am | #
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i think so too, u need to work on it ….la. lol.
but communication being communication, u still got the message thru wat, that’s the bottomline. so now, what kind of communication skills r u looking at …..ah.
keshimaya, tak | 09.28.06 – 3:58 am | #
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lol. I’m also quite sarcastic but i try to do it in a polite way that makes people confuse as to whether i’m being nice or nasty.
I think sarcasm could make a guy sound more macho and attractive but for a gal it’s the opposite. I think hypocrisy suits gals better.
abbot | 09.28.06 – 11:22 am | #
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Sarcasm is not something to be proud of. You may directly cause problems to people’s mental health. Some people tend to be more sensitive than others. I am one of them due to health reasons, and when people turn sarcastic, I automatically think that I am not worthy enough to be talking to him/her. Thus I usually shun talking. Have mercy, we don’t mean to be dumb, just a little slow in processing actions and words sometimes.
anonymous | 09.28.06 – 3:57 pm | #
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Zing: That is why I always look back when I am walking alone in a dark alley.. afraid someone might just stab me to death from behind. Hahaha!! Not all the time lah. Only when I am pissed.
Jakun: I cannot imagine if we both started quarreling leh. World War III?
Kat: Actually some people like me for being this way. They find it amusing.
keshimaya: True also. Thanks for pointing it out. I don’t have communication problem, maybe those I am communicating with, are the ones with problems.
abbot: Hypocrisy is never in my dictionary. I cannot do it. I rather be sarcastic and unattractive, than to be a hypocrite and attractive.
Anon: Usually, I could gauge from the conversation whether or not the person is sensitive. Of course, if I find the person I talk to is a bit sensitive, I would not go and press all the wrong buttons. I am usually nasty when I am with people who already knew me pretty well. And I am only sarcastic when someone pissed me off. So, don’t make me angry.. or else, the green monster will surface.
Gina | Homepage | 09.28.06 – 5:03 pm | #
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Gina, sarcasm is a wonderful thing! congrats!
stevo | Homepage | 09.29.06 – 1:28 am | #
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well…nothing wrong for being sarcastic but at the right time, right people & right place. Totally agreed, sarcastic in a polite way make difference…agree all!
Jane | 09.29.06 – 10:21 am | #
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Stevo: Eh?? Thanks.
Jane: I think some people just need sarcasm to knock some senses into their heads! See you on Tuesday!
Gina | Homepage | 09.30.06 – 11:16 am | #
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this reminds me of the time when a friend’s friend (not even someone i know) called me at midnight after i’ve been oncall, because she’s got chest pain.
i had to bite my tongue before it would spew out some expletives.
Vagus | Homepage | 09.30.06 – 12:56 pm | #