PARENTING 101: BRIBERY
Sasha has not wanted to go to school lately. Her mom took her back to hometown for a week for holidays and when she came back, she was whining and sulking, refusing to go to school.
My mom is running out of white lies to tell her to coax her to school.
“Your teacher asks you to go to school. She has new books for you!”
“Go to school lah. Today got birthday party! Your friend will give you present!”
My mom is running out of white lies to tell her to coax her to school.
“Your teacher asks you to go to school. She has new books for you!”
“Go to school lah. Today got birthday party! Your friend will give you present!”
It is agonizing to see her crying and wailing in the morning before going to school.
I took matters in my hands. I went to purchase some colorful lanterns and played with her at night. I made her promise to go to school the next day.
It did work this morning. She didn’t cry much, only a bit sulky. When the van came to take her to school, she held on tight to my mother and refused to let go.
I guess bribery doesn’t work.
Any clues? Parents?
I guess bribery doesn’t work.
Any clues? Parents?
Comments
so..perhaps u wanan mobilize yr troops? but maybe u can start off strategically, that u hv to think..yourself.
takeshi | 09.27.06 – 3:30 am | #
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Takeshi: Please keep your Sun Tzu to yourself. Hhmpphh… also can apply in parenting? I am surprised.
Gina | Homepage | 09.27.06 – 9:55 am | #
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I found that, the best way with my kid is to pile compliments on him to encourage him – he loves flattery (at such young age too).
Sigh… kids todays are so different from how we all used to be. In our time, the solution is always connected to a rod (rotan). I had to suffer my mom’s famous “laser-eye” stare too – next, to her “machine-gun” round of firings. LOL. My eardrums “berkecai alreadi by the time she finishes”. Sigh..
Sometimes, I even find ‘em (kids) to be somewhat cunning in a way – I am amazed by their ability or skill to coax i.e. manipulate an adult to do things for them easily.
My piece of advise to you is to brain-wash Sasha on all good things about school and don’t forget to mention all the fun things she gets to do there and all.
Sometimes, encouragements is all that a child need to excel and learn.
But, bear in mind that this method needs a hell lot of patience – and i know this is not one of your strong point :D Good luck!
cleeyy | Homepage | 09.28.06 – 12:01 pm | #
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cleey: I usually use the mafia way in handling children – bribe, if it doesn’t work, threathen. Haha!
Gina | Homepage | 09.28.06 – 5:04 pm | #
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maybe she is having a bad experience at school? try asking her what is wrong
ryuu | Homepage | 09.29.06 – 11:04 am | #
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Ryuu: She is plain lazy lah. Haha!
Gina | Homepage | 09.30.06 – 11:17 am | #
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You sure she is just lazy? Sometimes kids have reasons for thier behavior, but just don’t know how to express it.
nicktay | Homepage | 10.04.06 – 6:31 pm | #
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I agree with nicktay’s idea – it only normal for kids to struggle to express themself as they haven’t mature enough to have that type of social skill like us grownups do.
cleeyy | Homepage | 10.06.06 – 4:41 pm | #